How do you always make it so great to talk with you?
- It's easy! I always have a bad joke thrown in the fire. Sometimes I make more, just to be safe.
Conversations between strangers or acquaintances are usually not very interesting. This is not because people don't want to connect but because most people have something important to say that can't be expressed in a typical conversation. However, I'm capable of maintaining engaging discussions with various degrees of people (at least, this is what I heard once; it must be true!).
Some people are friendly but not interested in a deeper connection, and that's okay. Others only care about games, which you cannot do much about. In any case, the best thing to do is to excuse yourself gracefully.
However, many conversations can be made more meaningful and emotional. In these conversations, you can laugh, be excited, share knowledge, feel understood, and even feel loved. Good conversations can be therapeutic and healing.
I used to be terrible at having meaningful conversations and just talked about whatever I was interested in until my listener got bored. But I eventually realized that human connection is one of my favorite things, so I've tried to improve my conversation skills. I've learned that emotionally intelligent people can easily create meaningful conversations, but it takes practice and effort. Here are some tips that helped me improve my discussions.
Start with the weather and the sky, then go deeper.
"What are you most afraid of?"
